Avoid Borrowing Money from Friends and Family
We all get into a bind from time to time, for one reason or another, it happens to the best of us. How you get through it and come out on the other side not only matters to your financial future, but also the relationships around you. Whether it is a large sum of money that you could not get a personal loan for, maybe family or friends are offering a lower interest rate (perhaps even no interest) that would save you plenty of money on interest that you could not get otherwise, or need a few dollars short term to get by until the next paycheck, avoid asking family or friends for the money, you will thank yourself in the long run.
When the conversation is initiated it is awkward for both parties. First the person coming to ask for money has to disclose finances, which whether you are in good or bad financial shape is not smart to discuss with those around you, as it usually can make someone jealous or envious. Second, the person in the position to lend money may feel obligated to help, so it puts them in a difficult position to say no and feel weird around them going forward, or say yes and begin the process of having this person be indebted to them.
If a sum of money is agreed upon it runs the odds of being open ended, as typically money lent to family and friends tend to have loose terms and have no interest, putting a borrower and lender in a state of where the lender is always nervous wondering when the money will be paid, and the borrower not knowing when to pay it back. After a period it could come across that the loan is not a priority, making the lender then hove the difficult talk to ask for the money back, and therefore suddenly get-togethers are getting awkward for both parties. Neither will want to talk about the money that was lent, or anything that costs money for that matter.
When you lend money to family and friends you are sort of enabling them instead of helping them working through their problems, even getting to the point where more money could be asked for. Not only is the money not collecting interest for the lender, but it also reduces their money if ever needed for emergency. If you decide that it is ok to lend money, make sure there are terms are agreed upon, but must also be aware that there is a possibility that the money could never be returned, therefore jeopardizing the relationship.
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